The Volunteer You Turned Away

I honestly believe today more than ever people genuinely want to get involved.  After my CNN story came out I received lots of emails from people wanting to help. As always I suggest they support their local homeless services. I also give a disclaimer that it may be challenging trying to connect and that the person cannot give up until they find an organization that fits.

We suck at getting people involved. Please forgive my candor but I don’t know how else to put it. Ya I know you’re busy. And who has money to hire a volunteer coordinator? In homeless services everything that can go wrong usually does so when a group of people show up to help they are sent to the kitchen just to get them out of the way. There are far too many people for tasks so most of the volunteers stand around doing nothing. It’s a horrible experience so they never return to help you or any other homeless services organization.

The other thing we do is make them jump through so many hoops just to get involved they give up! As we enter into another year of a crappy economy we need volunteers more than ever. They save money and once a person gets involved most become financial donors.

Meet the volunteer you turned away:

Susan left a note on my Facebook. I don’t remember her exact words except she stated that after reading my CNN story she had to do something. I gave my normal response encouraging her to find a local shelter that ‘fits’. Susan really wanted to take action and started to apply as a volunteer in her area. She tried several places and each one made it nearly impossible for her to connect. She asked for my help so I recommended a few homeless services in or near where she lived. Unfortunately, I only know these organizations by their outward appearance. They, too, made it difficult and Susan was basically turned away every place she tried to help.

Susan decided to take action and started to research what people on the streets need. She even sent me links to information that I didn’t know. She planned on filling up her car and driving to a park to help.

Here is just one of the emails she sent:

My neighbor just gave me ten ski suits. Those things are unbelievably expensive and talk about durable, weatherproof and warm! I have hats, scarves, gloves, tons of thermals, sweats, jeans, socks, and someone gave me a inflatable bed with electric pump. Should I approach the people who are doing the feeding and give them the bed? My entire car is loaded right now. Are we able to park close to that park or do we have to park in the garage and just lug things back and forth? I have two rolling suitcases. Figured we will fill them up and go.

I then received this sent from her BlackBerry:

You are not going to believe this. We didn’t have enough. Corner of K and 15th. They came out of the woodwork. Down the road a little on 16th was a crowd of them too. It is cold and raining and miserable out. Food, clothes, jackets, all of our bags – just everything gone. My entire car was packed. Completely empty now. Unbelievable.

I responded simply asking how the experience was for her. Her answer again from her BlackBerry:

My heart is full. I don’t know if I have the words to express all of the emotions and what we experienced. Invisible people is the best description you could have come up with. I NEVER noticed the homeless as much as I did today. When you look for them, you see them EVERYWHERE.

We drove out there in the downpour. Started driving towards that area that you mentioned. Saw a guy standing by a monument, looked real close and saw a cardboard box. Swung back around, got out, walked over and he was grateful to get food and clothing. He came over to the car and as we were giving him things, he politely asked if he could have some things for his girlfriend who was sleeping under the box. Didn’t even see her! She came over and we gave them sweatshirts, hoodies, tshirts, food and bags (found these great drawstring bags for a dollar). I wanted to give them everything. I wanted to pull them out of their misery and give them shelter. I felt so helpless!

Got in the car and headed to that area you mentioned. Pulled up and saw plastic across this entire bench. Somebody was obviously under it. Not a single person around otherwise. To keep this short (I could write so much right now), we decided we were going to walk over to the bench. NEVER got to it. We never left our car.

One minute the park was deserted, the next minute it was filled with homeless people. We gave and gave and gave and stood in the pouring rain as more and more and more headed towards us. It was crazy. I never met the nicest people, the kindest, so respectful, looking out for each other, saying thank you and please and yes, maam and yes, sir and so grateful. I was floored.

Once we gave it all away, I swear I blinked and the park was empty. Not a soul around except for this one older lady just standing at the bench with her things and an umbrella. She barely spoke English and I went back to her and tried to figure out why she was out there. She didn’t even understand the word ‘shelter’. I called the shelter hotline and they said they would send a van out to her but she walked away. I couldn’t communicate what I was trying to do. I watched her walk away and the shelter never found her .

What do you do when you come across that type of thing? How do you help? I stood in the downpour and did nothing. I didn’t know what to do. I am in tears thinking of it.

And afterwards, we got back in the car and I thought … ‘OMG! That was so unexpected. We were mobbed but the thing is … every single person was polite, respectful, happy to receive something, kind, helpful, looking out for each other … it blew me away.

What if they weren’t that way? We actually threw ourselves in a potentially dangerous situation. There were so many people. It was so unexpected.

I don’t want to let that deter me but we saw one person and a mob came out of nowhere and then disappeared just as quickly. As we were leaving, I saw a small type of enclosure (tunnel?) and it was filled with people. I wanted to help them all.
On the way out, on rt 66, there were people under the overpass. They were everywhere! It felt good to help but my heart is full. I want to do anything to help but I feel so helpless.

Are we putting ourselves in danger by approaching one or two people only to have a mob come out nowhere and now we are outnumbered? They could have overpowered us but nobody did. Don’t know how to approach this the next time.

Today was exhilarating and heartbreaking … it could have been dangerous but it wasn’t. My heart is all over the place. I want so bad to help and help and just live and breathe helping them.

Sorry for so much writing. I could go on and on …

I really don’t have words to express what Susan’s actions mean to me. This is beyond amazing! THANK YOU SUSAN! What I will tell you is that Susan may be the perfect volunteer. She demonstrated leadership skills and that she is a make-things-happen person. And for those of you that still hold on to the delusion you cannot afford a volunteer coordinator Susan has donated several times to InvisiblePeople.tv. Honestly, I would rather have her donate to local homeless services organizations – but they all passed her up!

If you have had a similar experience please share. If you are a service provider how can we improve at getting people connected and involved?

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  • http://slohomeless.wordpress.com slohomeless

    Wonderful post…

    Extra big kudos to Susan for not allowing having had her offer to volunteer keep her from still reaching out.

  • http://twitter.com/BradEMelton Brad Melton

    Great post! For the past few years I've led a small all-volunteer groundskeeping crew at our school, ambassadorsforchristacademy.org, and have had the opportunity to coordinate several school beautification work days. After working hard to encourage and inspire people to show up, there are few feelings worse than having a bunch of volunteers standing around with nothing to do. You think about all the times when you had too few to get the job done and now you know that the abundant help you were just blessed with probably won’t be so inclined to come back. So I learned the hard way to ALWAYS have more work available than what I expect to get done that day.

    Many days we’ve had too few volunteers. However, once-in-awhile our cup has spilled over –big time! Being ready with extra tasks in my back pocket keeps everyone engaged and feeling useful. It also gets a lot more much needed work done!

    And that brings up another point. PLANNING these extra tasks, while maybe not part of the primary goals of the day, ensures that necessary work gets done and prevents me from inventing busy work on-the-fly. Maybe worse than having a valuable volunteer stand around is assigning them a task that you both know is just filling their time –goodbye volunteer!

    These experiences are helping me as I’ve transitioned more of my volunteerism into loving on the “least of these” this past year. As always, love ya, Bro! Your unwavering dedication to our brothers and sisters on the street has been one of the inspirations for my transformation.

    -Brad Melton, Gathering & Distribution Team Coordinator, Cobblestoneproject.org

  • http://www.titidirectonline.co.uk/mobile-phones Dual Sim Phones

    nice post

  • http://twitter.com/rfbryant Faye Bryant

    We live near Knoxville, TN. Knoxville has at least three homeless shelters, yet there are people on the streets.

    We work to cause our students to see beyond themselves and to get out of the “usual” church thing. First we took them to a nursing home where they tried to share love and came away knowing they'd done okay, but something wasn't quite “right” for them.

    Next month, we took them to a bridge in Knoxville where we pulled out a grill and cooked burgers & dogs. As they cooked, some of our college-aged guys walked the area, inviting those invisible people to come to the cookout. Every one of our students that were there that night came away wanting to know when we were going back. They had experienced love — sharing it in a way they'd never really done before.

    Now, even though we were chased off that bridge and out from under it, too — we go to a public parking lot once a month and have a cook-out. We take backpacks, socks, clothing, coats — whatever we can. A few adults and a bunch of teens.

    And what Susan felt — I've wept reading her words, knowing EXACTLY what she's saying. This is one of those ministries that I won't miss, and I'm even looking for other ways to help them.

  • kat

    What specifically do you think volunteers can do to help house people? What tasks do you think would be meaningful, have a direct impact and take little enough coordination and oversight? I am really interested in how we can engage volunteers in actually HOUSING homeless folks, and how non-profits can best coordinate that to be a meaningful experience for both the volunteer and homeless individual. it's a challenge that comes up constantly in my work and i'm very interested in your thoughts.

  • Susan

    That's a great idea about using a grill. Yet another idea to add to my list. I'm only a couple of months old in the volunteer field. Lots to learn. Your comment encourages me. Thank you Faye! :) I was just given an opportunity in my company to find an org that we can help in the DC area. I will not be surprised if I have to kick down some doors in order for someone to respond. Learned a lesson here … volunteer coordinators are desperately needed. Now if I can find a place that will accept my offer to help in that area …

  • http://hardlynormal.com hardlynormal

    Kat,

    that depends on how each specific organization wants to develop their volunteer base. there are nonprofits that even have executive staff positions like CFO as volunteers. I've seen large nonprofits in homeless services run with a minimum staff utilizing a mostly all volunteer workforce. And I've seen nonprofits so insecure they wont allow a volunteer staff to do anything but sweep the floor. it really is a leadership decision.

    it's hard to give specifics without knowing the org. But everything a paid staff can do a volunteer with the right training and freedom can do.

    one way i'd love to see volunteers used more is after a chronic homeless person is placed into an apartment. Too me, that is when the battle really begins. it is scary for a person going through such a huge life change. a volunteer team can visit giving tangible social interaction. normally an org will have the 'client' show up once a week at the office and do a few location visits. that is not enough. on the orgs defensive there is not enough money to send staff.

    the big issue is organizations don't want to stop and take the time to cultivate volunteers. they don't see the real importance, or maybe they do but don't want to make the initial investment

    too me, I see it as marketing. but then again everything is marketing. volunteers will save money, they will donate money, and they'll talk about you and become your chief evangelists

  • http://blog.perfectedperspectives.com/ acedrew

    I did some investigation recently into software to help a non-profit that I'm working with, they want to avoid this exact problem! They are planning on using a HRM (Human Resources Management) software package to more effectively match volunteers to tasks that meet their skills and interests. I provided some additional review info in my blog post here: http://blog.perfectedperspectives.com/2009/oss-…

    This is extremely important, to avoid wasting talent and resources, not to mention frustrating potential volunteers and driving them away.

    Andrew Rodgers

  • http://twitter.com/femelmed fran melmed

    your story about how difficult organizations make it to get involved is so sad and so true. i've been trying to find someplace where i can volunteer with my kids and it's darn near impossible, particularly to volunteer where my kids will be able to interact with others and really see people's needs and how their/our efforts can make a difference. perhaps taking it into our own hands to do what we can, no matter how small or disconnected from some larger organization's efforts, is the answer.

  • http://twitter.com/femelmed fran melmed

    your story about how difficult organizations make it to get involved is so sad and so true. i've been trying to find someplace where i can volunteer with my kids and it's darn near impossible, particularly to volunteer where my kids will be able to interact with others and really see people's needs and how their/our efforts can make a difference. perhaps taking it into our own hands to do what we can, no matter how small or disconnected from some larger organization's efforts, is the answer.