Archive for January, 2010

The Volunteer You Turned Away

Published by January 16th, 2010 in My Big Mouth  View Comments  

I honestly believe today more than ever people genuinely want to get involved.  After my CNN story came out I received lots of emails from people wanting to help. As always I suggest they support their local homeless services. I also give a disclaimer that it may be challenging trying to connect and that the person cannot give up until they find an organization that fits.

We suck at getting people involved. Please forgive my candor but I don’t know how else to put it. Ya I know you’re busy. And who has money to hire a volunteer coordinator? In homeless services everything that can go wrong usually does so when a group of people show up to help they are sent to the kitchen just to get them out of the way. There are far too many people for tasks so most of the volunteers stand around doing nothing. It’s a horrible experience so they never return to help you or any other homeless services organization.

The other thing we do is make them jump through so many hoops just to get involved they give up! As we enter into another year of a crappy economy we need volunteers more than ever. They save money and once a person gets involved most become financial donors.

Meet the volunteer you turned away:

Susan left a note on my Facebook. I don’t remember her exact words except she stated that after reading my CNN story she had to do something. I gave my normal response encouraging her to find a local shelter that ‘fits’. Susan really wanted to take action and started to apply as a volunteer in her area. She tried several places and each one made it nearly impossible for her to connect. She asked for my help so I recommended a few homeless services in or near where she lived. Unfortunately, I only know these organizations by their outward appearance. They, too, made it difficult and Susan was basically turned away every place she tried to help.

Susan decided to take action and started to research what people on the streets need. She even sent me links to information that I didn’t know. She planned on filling up her car and driving to a park to help.

Here is just one of the emails she sent:

My neighbor just gave me ten ski suits. Those things are unbelievably expensive and talk about durable, weatherproof and warm! I have hats, scarves, gloves, tons of thermals, sweats, jeans, socks, and someone gave me a inflatable bed with electric pump. Should I approach the people who are doing the feeding and give them the bed? My entire car is loaded right now. Are we able to park close to that park or do we have to park in the garage and just lug things back and forth? I have two rolling suitcases. Figured we will fill them up and go.

I then received this sent from her BlackBerry:

You are not going to believe this. We didn’t have enough. Corner of K and 15th. They came out of the woodwork. Down the road a little on 16th was a crowd of them too. It is cold and raining and miserable out. Food, clothes, jackets, all of our bags – just everything gone. My entire car was packed. Completely empty now. Unbelievable.

I responded simply asking how the experience was for her. Her answer again from her BlackBerry:

My heart is full. I don’t know if I have the words to express all of the emotions and what we experienced. Invisible people is the best description you could have come up with. I NEVER noticed the homeless as much as I did today. When you look for them, you see them EVERYWHERE.

We drove out there in the downpour. Started driving towards that area that you mentioned. Saw a guy standing by a monument, looked real close and saw a cardboard box. Swung back around, got out, walked over and he was grateful to get food and clothing. He came over to the car and as we were giving him things, he politely asked if he could have some things for his girlfriend who was sleeping under the box. Didn’t even see her! She came over and we gave them sweatshirts, hoodies, tshirts, food and bags (found these great drawstring bags for a dollar). I wanted to give them everything. I wanted to pull them out of their misery and give them shelter. I felt so helpless!

Got in the car and headed to that area you mentioned. Pulled up and saw plastic across this entire bench. Somebody was obviously under it. Not a single person around otherwise. To keep this short (I could write so much right now), we decided we were going to walk over to the bench. NEVER got to it. We never left our car.

One minute the park was deserted, the next minute it was filled with homeless people. We gave and gave and gave and stood in the pouring rain as more and more and more headed towards us. It was crazy. I never met the nicest people, the kindest, so respectful, looking out for each other, saying thank you and please and yes, maam and yes, sir and so grateful. I was floored.

Once we gave it all away, I swear I blinked and the park was empty. Not a soul around except for this one older lady just standing at the bench with her things and an umbrella. She barely spoke English and I went back to her and tried to figure out why she was out there. She didn’t even understand the word ‘shelter’. I called the shelter hotline and they said they would send a van out to her but she walked away. I couldn’t communicate what I was trying to do. I watched her walk away and the shelter never found her .

What do you do when you come across that type of thing? How do you help? I stood in the downpour and did nothing. I didn’t know what to do. I am in tears thinking of it.

And afterwards, we got back in the car and I thought … ‘OMG! That was so unexpected. We were mobbed but the thing is … every single person was polite, respectful, happy to receive something, kind, helpful, looking out for each other … it blew me away.

What if they weren’t that way? We actually threw ourselves in a potentially dangerous situation. There were so many people. It was so unexpected.

I don’t want to let that deter me but we saw one person and a mob came out of nowhere and then disappeared just as quickly. As we were leaving, I saw a small type of enclosure (tunnel?) and it was filled with people. I wanted to help them all.
On the way out, on rt 66, there were people under the overpass. They were everywhere! It felt good to help but my heart is full. I want to do anything to help but I feel so helpless.

Are we putting ourselves in danger by approaching one or two people only to have a mob come out nowhere and now we are outnumbered? They could have overpowered us but nobody did. Don’t know how to approach this the next time.

Today was exhilarating and heartbreaking … it could have been dangerous but it wasn’t. My heart is all over the place. I want so bad to help and help and just live and breathe helping them.

Sorry for so much writing. I could go on and on …

I really don’t have words to express what Susan’s actions mean to me. This is beyond amazing! THANK YOU SUSAN! What I will tell you is that Susan may be the perfect volunteer. She demonstrated leadership skills and that she is a make-things-happen person. And for those of you that still hold on to the delusion you cannot afford a volunteer coordinator Susan has donated several times to InvisiblePeople.tv. Honestly, I would rather have her donate to local homeless services organizations – but they all passed her up!

If you have had a similar experience please share. If you are a service provider how can we improve at getting people connected and involved?

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Happy Birthday Beth

Published by January 10th, 2010 in My Big Mouth  View Comments  

I can’t exactly recall when I was first introduced to Beth Kanter’s work. I mean, who in the nonprofit or the social media world does not know how brilliant she is!  But I do remember that after I was asked to speak at Gnomedex I started to really pay attention. The year before Beth spoke at Gnomedex and people are still talking.

This last year there were two people that I wanted to meet in real life. Both had played a huge part in helping me guide InvisiblePeople.tv. When I was speaking in Washington, DC over the summer I was honored Katya Andresen took time to meet with me. She’s amazing! Now I just had to wait because with the way things were going Beth Kanter and I would cross paths in no time. Blog World went by, then 140 Conference – no Beth. I thought for sure we would meet at a conference or event but the year was almost over. Honest – I really wanted to meet Beth in person!

Luckily the last week of 2009 I had the honor of spending time with Beth and her gorgeous family. We happened to meet up for coffee at a little cafe’ near Venice. Of course it happened because of social media and one of Beth’s online experiments which couldn’t have been any more perfect.

I am genuinely grateful for Beth and her work in the nonprofit social media space. Beth helps the little guys like me do big things.

Please join me in making Beth Kanter’s birthday the very best ever by helping her help Cambodian children.

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Joe’s Finally Home

Published by January 7th, 2010 in My Big Mouth  View Comments  

Yesterday we found out our formerly homeless friend died in his apartment. I can honestly say I love Joe. I am still trying to process this, as we all are. When he first came to us he had maggots in his leg. Joe was homeless for close to ten years and was in really bad shape.

We were able to get him admitted to a hospital. I remember it was my day off and I could not get my mind off him sitting in a hospital room alone so I drove to the hospital to visit him. I walked into Joseph’s room and respectfully asked if he would mind me visiting. In his low sulky voice he responded, “you’ll be the only one”. That still wrecks me!

I told Joe to stay there as long as he could. He had a place to stay, food, and nurses waiting on him. Being honest I didn’t think he was going to make it meaning I didn’t think he would get out of homelessness.

A co-worker found some loophole in a grant so we were able to find Joe housing. As fate would have it I was asked to pick Joe up at the shelter and drive him to his new apartment. Because I once lived on the streets I know the hard battle starts when he walks into his new life. I drove my SUV to pick him up and I remember he commented on the digital clock in the dashboard. “When’d we get those” he said surprised. It had been a long time since he was in a car. We had to follow the bus route since those were the only directions he knew. I asked when was the last time he ate at a restaurant, what was the last movie he saw. It was at that moment I made a commitment to visit him as often as I could.

Joe's first steak in 13 yearsThis photo is my favorite photo of all time.  (Click on it to see it enlarged) Joseph said this was the first time he eat steak in 13 years. I was lucky enough to take Joe to Sizzler a few times. He loved the place. I once took him to Bob’s Big Boy for a hamburger and although he would let me take his photo he wouldn’t smile like he did here. I asked him why. Joe simply said, “you didn’t buy me steak”! We both laughed. I never did get around to taking him to the movies. I tried a few times he just didn’t want to go. Life can be scary after being on the streets that long. I did get him a TV with DVD player he totally loved.

I will forever remember his smile that first day at Sizzler.

Today we learned that if Joseph’s body is not claimed in 45 days the coroner will have it cremated. At the end of the year the ashes of all the unclaimed bodies are placed in a pit.

A co-worker wrote this poem:

Finally Home

Joe walked into the office one rainy day
Turned out to be his birthday
He told me his story
Mom died after high school
It was over 30 years ago
Sounded like yesterday
No family, no friends to speak of
Unless you count the homeless services workers
At BTAC and PATH Achieve

Joe told me about the broken ankle
The job loss
The bad luck
But never did he say
Poor me
Or life sucks

No, Joe just chuckled
He told me how he kept the ants away
From the bench he slept on

I told him there’s a vacancy in the housing program
Joe just smiled, shrugged, and said,
“Okay, whatever you say”

After a hospital stay
Some time at a shelter
And cutting through red tape
Joe finally had a key to his own apartment
First time in ten years

Maria, the apartment manager, welcomed Joe
Made him feel like he belonged
He sure was grateful to have a place indoors
No more cold nights on the bench
No, Joe had a bed and a roof over his head

Joe never asked for anything
But he was grateful to all the folks who helped
He graciously accepted all the donated stuff
The bed, the table, the DVD player

When Joe stopped by the office
He was treated like a VIP
We all like success stories
Joe gave us hope
A yes in a land of no

Jenny and Cammie gave warm greetings
LaViva joked around
Nancy poured a cup of coffee
And Jutta got a bag of canned food ready

Those outreach guys
Stephan and Mark
They took Joe out for meals
They waited patiently
As Joe told them stories
Stories they’d heard a dozen times
But it was Joe

It’s hard to describe Joe
A big guy
With expressive eyes
He could light up a room
Turning a furrowed brow into a smile
And chucking over something or other

Joe loved his mom
And from what I could tell
Mereline was a remarkable woman
She raised a decent man
And even though fate dealt him a difficult hand
He played it with dignity

I’m grateful Joe walked into the office that rainy day
And even though I only knew him for a year
It’s good to know he had a place to call his own
The last year of this dusty life

Now Joe has returned to his real home
A home built without hands

by Trevor Goldstein

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